"Networking"

Last night I went to a "networking" event in Beverly Hills. I use the word networking lightly because from what I observed, it seemed as if there was a lot more scoping and checking out going on, as opposed to meeting and conversing. Now I'll admit, I have a tendency to be a little closed off when I enter a new place. Ok, a LOT closed off. But that's only because I am checking my surroundings, and taking in the environment. Also, I like to people watch! It's probably one of the many entertaining things I've done out here in LA.

The spot was nice and mellow, the scene was another story. Alot of folks of color in the place, which was cool. Also, there were literally more men then women (a rarity out here)---but that didn't mean a damn thing. Two women I was sitting next to made a comment on how the men out here are different then the men they are used to (they are from the South). "This is sad, they are just standing around looking at each other expecting us to approach and start a conversation with them" one of them said.

Unfortunately I couldn't disagree with her because from my observation, everything she was saying was true. Literally three tall, handsome brothas in suits walked into the place and literally strutted through to the back and posed for about and hour before bouncing. The scene played straight like a fashion runway show. They just stood there and talked to each other---I mean, they could've stayed at the office and did that. I caught two other guys at the bar just standing and drinking, and chatting. When a woman came and started talking to one of them, the other one just stood there looking like he didn't know what to do---"should I introduce myself to the other three women around me?, no no they must acknowledge and approach me first!". We never did, and literally 15+ minutes went by and dude was still looking for someone to come and save him.

I have to say, from a woman's perspective, it wasn't very attractive. I like people in general who are assertive, and go after what they want---especially men. Not that I'm saying there is anything wrong with women who approach men, but I prefer not to do that. Because if I do, I feel as a man---you should understand that (in my mind)you've already been downgraded to friend/associate status hence forth...regardless of how FINE you are.