You're Beautiful

As I was sitting in the chair today at the beauty shop getting my hair twisted, my hairdresser's brother entered the shop along with his girlfriend and friend. Kari took one look at his girlfriend from a distance and asked that he send her down so she could figure out "What's going on with her hair?" When she came over I noticed how cute this girl was, she was in a wife beater t-shirt, a sports bra, short cheerleader shorts, and some tennis shoes. In fact, all of the entourage had looked as if they'd just came from working out or taking a few laps around a track. When asked about the status of her hair she replied "Sherry put a weave in it for a photo shoot". And what a weave it was---it was long, black, and wavy. They continued in conversation, and eventually began talking about a party that she (whom I'll refer to as YBF, only because I forgot her name) went to with her boyfriend (Kari's brother- KB). Kari expressed how she heard about what happened at the party. YBF replied, "Oh you did...look at this, this is from the party". YBF proceeded to show Kari and myself scars and bruises that seemed to have slightly healed from this party that she and KB attended. The first thought that came to my mind was "what type of partying were you doing?" As I continued to listen to the conversation, it became obvious that it was some teeny bopper house party they attended where a girl invited a friend, who then invited some of her friends outside of the circle of those who were invited. I guess these "friends" were some unruly chicks who seemed to take pleasure out of starting trouble, and so they began to pick on a girl (a latina) who outwardly looked as if she didn't know anyone. Little did they know when they started beefing with her, that she had a whole room full of allies. One of them being YBF, who quickly came to the defense of her friend, therefore resulting in her getting all scarred up. I just sat there in the chair listening to this story, but I'm sure by the expression on my face this young lady could tell I was in shock because I would've never thought from her mannerisms and her grace that she could be involved in such a scuffle. Not to mention, I wanted to tell her..."girl, you're too beautiful and bright to be getting all caught up in that foolishness." But I didn't have to say a word because Kari said it all when she was telling her that they had no business being out there anyways, and how it ain't nothing new (essentially the same script, different cast)...oh, and they should've been in church instead.

Oh, I left out the fact that after the chicks began scrapping, there were dudes at the party who began to beef as well, only they were threatening to go grab some "fire", or whatever ridiculous term is used to describe guns. Yeah, that is when my mouth was wide open after hearing that...I mean, YBF is a young lady, yet still a kid....if that even makes sense. She expressed how she was really scared after hearing that. I'm thinking to myself "Why even be in such an environment?", and then it dawned on me...she's young, and she wants to have fun---which she said they were all having a great time up until that point. The sad part was when YBF expressed how the girls who started the mess were laughing and smiling, as if they were taking pleasure or kinda got a high from all the mess and drama they were causing. I sat back and thought about that...what kinda life does a person lead or rather lack, that they would take pleasure in someone else's pain? (this is actually 1 of many semptoms of a psycopath). That's when I became sad about the girls. Not necessarily the girls that were picked on, but the girls who were doing the picking as well. Because not only did these girls lack respect for others, but it was so clear that they were lacking self-esteem and love for themselves as well.

That's why I've decided to make sure that when I see someone (male or female) that grabs my eye because of their beauty, I will make sure to let them know...and I will have no shame in doing so, because truth be told you never know what someone is going through, and a simple compliment can do a whole for somebody's self-esteem.

You're Beautiful!